mcsweeney’s prompt #1

Write a scene showing a man and a woman arguing over the man’s friendship with a former girlfriend. Do not mention the girlfriend, the man, the woman, or the argument.
 Frida slinks noiselessly onto the patio, face tilted upwards to revel in the dewy breeze of the early morning. The sun is new, a chaotic splash of pink and orange in the sky. She wonders for a moment why the screen door was left open, but she feels no trepidation or suspicion, simply curiosity. To her understanding, it is considered bad form to leave doors ajar, but whether the paranoia behind these sorts of decisions is steeped in a desire to keep things inside or out, Frida cannot say. She is pondering the glistening grass two stories beneath the faded wooden planks when she hears a phone chime.
Ah, she nods knowingly to herself. She finds the familiar, warm intersection of railing that has no jagged nails or bits of wood poking out, and plants herself down with a contented murmur. Curling her limbs snugly to her center, she watches the similarly familiar display with amused condescension. She is confident of the structure; well-versed in the content; and thus utterly bored with the predictability, but there is so little else to entertain her at the moment, and this spot really is warming up quite nicely.
The first volley. An amiable effort, to be sure. Lackluster, at worst. It is a rehashing of a rehashing of a mangled horse, blood long coagulated and visible skeleton starkly yellowed. Jealousy is a bitter thing, souring the air. Frida yawns, and imagines she can taste the verdant tang on her tongue.
New evidence, fresh accusations. Even Frida can’t resist cocking an eyebrow, eyes darting back and forth in the sudden, tense stillness. A bluejay chortles in a tree nearby, a shrill three notes. The sun grows warmer with each passing minute, miniature beads of dew evaporating beneath its widening glare. A thin film of panic coats the drying wood, slicking every surface, and Frida huffs unkindly. Simple-minded fool, she thinks.
Her thoughts are echoed, violently, and there is a sudden movement and a faintly damp squelch. Frida peers over the ledge to find a small dark shape in the grass that rings, a tinny, sorrowful sound, a telling sound. As dramatic gestures go, a rather desperate one. She wonders if this act heralds the end, if the truth has at last been unearthed and illuminated. The murmured pleas tell her yes. The gasping sobs tell her yes.
It’s too hot, now. Leaping lightly down, she winds her way to the cluster of folding chairs, between flanks of soft skin that have never tensed at her touch, never itched to kick her in a moment of undeserved frustration. Resettling in the cool shade and hissing slightly at the outstretched hand, she curls back into herself and idly licks a paw, plotting her revenge.
She had chosen sides months ago, anyway.
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Just Be A Man About It

I was on Facebook today and saw a status that pissed me off. Perhaps you can relate. No, of course you can relate. What is Facebook really for, if not for showing you which of your acquaintances and family members you probably should not be in a room with for more than ten minutes? 

The status in question was, presumably, borne of a domestic squabble, because it said something along the lines of, “why can’t MEN with FEMALE emotions learn to grow a pair?” Aside from the well-established fact that .0001% of your Facebook friends are interested in reading about your personal drama, this status rubbed me in all the wrong ways. And, sure, I get it, people say really idiotic things when they’re upset. It’s natural – we get frustrated, we vent. But if you’re going to vent on a platform that, by definition, will be seen by hundreds of people, instantly, with zero context and with zero warning, then as your ‘friend’, I am entitled to form an opinion about a) the subject of your venting and b) the way in which you vented. Thanks, Mark!

I am completely uninterested in this particular person’s personal drama; however, I do take issue with the way she decided to articulate its aftermath. As a woman, I have been subjected to countless instances of subtle discrimination and mockery because of my gender. It comes from everywhere: television, movies, advertising, family, friends, even myself. It’s ingrained. I am quick to make the disclaimer that I ‘throw like a girl’ because any attempt to fling anything at anybody in a setting that demands some level of precision and athleticism typically goes hilarious awry. I repeatedly reminded myself to ‘man up’ while getting my first tattoo, lest I give any outward sign that I was uncomfortable. I’ve even caught myself calling frightened characters in TV shows ‘pussies’. I am a person WITH a pussy; why would I even think such a thing?! It’s inconceivable, and yet, totally normal. Calling out my own internalized misogyny is not something I thought about doing until I was in my 20s, and now that I’ve started doing it, I’ve come to realize just how much self-hate I’ve been living with. It’s pretty scary.

What does that have to do with this status? Clearly, this person was talking about men. Well, it has everything to do with it. I am proud to call myself a feminist, albeit also quick to clarify exactly what I mean when I say that, because apparently, it’s still necessary: I believe all genders should be treated equally. Women, men, trans, non-binary, everybody. And building imaginary fences that separate MALE and FEMALE emotions is not only completely asinine; it’s insulting to EVERYBODY. 

Basically, this person is saying that men should not have female emotions, because it negates the existence of their testicles. (???) This was clearly expressed in a negative light. Ergo, the lack of testicles = bad.

But then, this person is a female, with presumably female emotions, and testicle-less, so are we to conclude that this person = bad, as well???

Probably not, as she is one who wrote the status. Okay. So the problem must be the man…but she decided to emphasize the fact that he is afflicted with ‘female emotions’. If he did not have these emotions, it follows that this status would not have been made. Makes sense, right?

So. Let’s examine the real enemy: FEMALE EMOTIONS.

Aye, here’s the rub: Emotions do not have a gender. Emotions are chemicals telling our brain to do stuff based on stimuli and our experiences and our unique perspectives of the world. (Science??) Emotions are not blue or pink. Emotions do not have identifying chromosomes. Emotions are common to humans. Every human has emotions; the same emotions, more or less. 

Don’t be an asshole, Carla, clearly she’s talking about emotions females feel more often than men. Thinky-hurty-talky emotions, right? The ones that make women cry and men scowl. Women supplicate and men cross their arms. Women placate and men smirk. Women are the sensitive, nurturing, articulate ones, who feel more deeply and think more carefully and hurt more…prettily. While men are the stoic, calm, centers of the storm, responding calmly and rationally and so, so obtusely. Just, totally missing the point. Right?

No, no, wait. That isn’t right. Because this guy had female emotions. So that means he was being sensitive. And needy. Probably whiny. 

But it could also mean he was uncommunicative. Closed-off. Unwilling to compromise. Because at the end of the day, I have no idea what the situation was. So the only thing I can reasonably conclude is that this man acted in a way that this woman didn’t like. A way that warranted him being accused of being similar to a woman. So…who is really being insulted here?

If you weren’t sure what I was talking about when I mentioned ‘internalized misogyny’, I sure hope you get it now.

 

 

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On writing, and to do lists, and Neil Gaiman

This post will not be as heavy as my last.

I’ll be honest: I did not mean to write. I didn’t even want to. Well, that’s a half-truth. I always want to be writing, want in that deep, almost primal sense, because writing is what comes most naturally to me out of all of my habits and proclivities: not talking, reading, observing, internalizing. Writing is my tool for synthesis, understanding, and introspection. It affords me both the freedom of creation and the immediacy of my own intellectual capabilities. So yes, writing is something I always want to do, but the older I become, the more worries and responsibilities I bear, the harder it becomes to divorce the joy of writing from the burden of work. Writing is hard, and tedious, much more often than I care to admit. If you love something, you should love all parts of it, right?

I mean, maybe not. That’s a pretty naive view of love. Maybe it’s the persistence despite the difficulties that make it truly worth it.

Eric came home and asked, “What happened to your journal entries? It seemed like you were on a roll.” I try to carve the time out of every day to write at least (meager, meager least) a page in my journal. These entries contain little substance; they’re mainly trite, witty summations of my day, lists, aspirations. I am no Sylvia Plath, whose diary entries still inspire such wonder and envy in me. To have spent the time crafting such fresh, crisp descriptions of her breakfast, of looking out at the sea of young faces she taught every day, of her admiration for her husband and their shared passion for poetry – how did she find the time, the focus? Didn’t her hand cramp up? Where did all of her spare mental mileage come from, after a day of teaching and writing and just…living?

The clicking of my keyboard: “I wasn’t trying to shame you into writing,” he just said. Well, he did, but I’m not upset. If I identify as a writer, shouldn’t I write? I made a to do list for today, consciously choosing to partition my numerous tasks for the weekend over today and tomorrow, instead of shoddily attempting them all around 7 pm tomorrow, when the looming threat of Monday has become harrowing and inescapable. It worked; I checked everything for Saturday off of my list. And yet, the heady glow of satisfaction is now only being fully realized as I type. Typical. Sometimes, you just need that shame.

There’s a Neil Gaiman quote that floats onto my Tumblr dashboard every once in a while, but naturally, now that I want to find it, I can’t. But he says something like, ‘Don’t let writer’s block stop you from writing. A real writer is one who writes when they feel they have nothing to write about.’ I once sat down to write a poem, and after about twenty frustrating minutes of mental tumbleweeds, I started writing about having nothing to write about. At the end of two pages, I stopped, scrolled to the top, read through what I had just written, and laughed. That poem ended up winning a bronze medal in a competition I entered that year. Tangent.

My point is, I have no excuse. While I often have small bursts of inspiration that end up making it as far as my iPhone Notes and no further, the majority of the time, when I sit down to write, it’s simply because I want to. I would like to write a book one day. Soon. Maybe it will be a children’s book, or a young adult book, or one for adults. Maybe it’ll be a novel, maybe it will be a collection of essays or short stories. I want my main character(s) to be people of color, people with real anxieties and family members they don’t speak to as often as they should and unsightly skin blemishes that won’t go away. I want them to be confused and loud or maybe mostly quiet and neurotic. Their dreams will be like water and brambles and smoke and touch the distorted features of faces they love, streets and corridors they’ve walked thousands of times but can’t recognize in the fading light of a setting lavender sun, muddled visions yearned for and slowly lost. They’ll look at their best friend and wonder what would happen if they suddenly kissed them deeply, or stand on line at Target and fantasize about taking off all of their clothes and running screaming through the aisles containing greeting cards and fruit-shaped stickers but they won’t, they’ll smile to themselves and pay for their lotion and tampons because, social codes. They might become more flexible, sexually, and lazily decide to pass on the cliched freak-out because it makes much more sense that human sexuality be a spectrum, and not a light switch. Maybe they’ll have fins and gills, or maybe there will be a mass migration to Venus to establish a matriarchal monarchy. Maybe they’ll be depressed. Maybe they’ll be ghosts, but corporeal, and venomous, and scared.

I know I need to get started. Today, every day, is a reminder of that.

How about this? Tomorrow, I’ll put it on my to do list.

cultural identity crisis?

A couple of months ago I wrote a piece in which I unabashedly laid bare some of my most pervasive and damaging insecurities, most of which centered around my physical appearance (mainly, my hair). Every so often I go back and read what I wrote, and I see all the ‘likes’ and comments from people who have read it, some from my closest family and friends, some from people I would probably never even think about if it weren’t for social media, and I cringe. In reality, I am one of the most quiet and withdrawn people I know when I am around people I am not completely comfortable around, and that is not a large group of people. But, as is the case with most writers, I suppose, who stray to introversion, it is such an incredible relief to use the medium of writing to express what I cannot out loud.

I will probably look back on this at some point and cringe, maybe five minutes after posting it, but what good is writing if it doesn’t expose something? Maybe someone will catch a glimpse of themselves in what I said. That, more than an exhibitionist urge, is why I write.

I was raised in a very Caribbean home. Or West Indian – is that more accurate? My father was born in Guyana; my mother in Jamaica. They lived in the United States for many years before I came along, but their enduring passion and sense of belonging to their original homes was strong enough to never make me hesitate in considering myself a member of the ‘first-generation’ club. I had other friends whose families were West Indian; we commiserated over our shared ‘struggles’ that we were actually secretly proud of: the indescribable panic that filtered through the house when someone discovered we were out of rice; the abrupt switch to patois that was the unerring harbinger of a truly painful punishment; curry, curry, and more curry when seriously, can we never just have fried chicken like regular black people? 

You read that right. Is that offensive? Probably. Sorry. But this is genuinely how I viewed myself and other Caribbean-American families. There was a clear difference between my family’s Sunday dinner and my friend Rashida’s. When I went to a family reunion at Kerryn’s house, they did not drink mauby or sorrel, and her grandmother certainly was not wining to “Murder She Wrote”. From an early age, I was acutely aware of the cultural variations that existed between me and some of my closest friends, despite our nearly identical skin tones; our similar hairstyles and way of dress. Most of the time, they made me laugh. But the older I got, the more it began to…rankle.

I think it was college where I really began to grasp how much of what I saw as ‘black culture’ I had missed out on. When I saw large groups of black girls on campus, my first instinct was to hide, or make myself less visible, as if I was somehow afraid they’d call me out on my anti-social and uncool behavior, the opposite of how they were presenting themselves. They seemed so vibrant and intimidating and I felt completely separate from them; somehow familiar yet totally incomprehensible. I tried to integrate: I auditioned for a hip hop dance group, experienced some of the worst stage fright of my life, and got cut – one of the most humiliating experiences of my college career (a black girl who can’t dance?) I also joined the Liberation Gospel Choir for a couple of months (weeks?) out of a fit of nostalgia and loneliness. I was always in choirs throughout elementary, middle, and high school; even in my church, where I had become accustomed to feeling out of place, I felt accepted in the Children’s/VOP/Teen Choir. In LGC, I quickly assumed my typical M.O.: quietly watching other’s antics from the sidelines, laughing at the jokes and speaking when spoken to. I eventually stopped going when I felt my act was too difficult to maintain. It just wasn’t me.

What the hell is blackness? Buried beneath my many other, more demanding insecurities, this one lingered for years, festering. Every time I went abroad, it became easier to ignore. Do you know how often you worry about seeming ‘black enough’ when you’re hanging out in a bar in southwest England with people from all over the world, who speak seventeen other languages and who all look and dress and think differently? NEVER. I was just another foreigner in a sea of foreigners, except I also had a (pretty unfair) leg up, because they all also spoke English. I had no one to compare myself to because no one else looked like me. I could finally breathe without worrying about if I was breathing the right way.

(People told me how transformative my study abroad experience(s) would be, but every time I write, I continue to understand just how right they were. Perhaps even more in retrospect.)

I’ve been back for years and the question remains: what is blackness? What does it mean for me? For most of my life, American blackness has been like a club I can’t quite afford membership to. There’s an exhaustive list of things I’m missing: the lyrics to yet another classic oldie that my peers’ parents were blasting while mine were crooning along with “Three Little Birds”, having seen some iconic Spike Lee movie or old black sitcom, an appreciation for an actor whose name I can’t really remember. I didn’t go to an HBCU, much less apply to one. I have no memory of watching the “Thriller” video for the first time (this is a thing, right?). I’ve learned to stop making exclamations when I hear the original songs that modern hip hop artists have sampled from, for fear of getting the “are you kidding me????” look that is rarely served alongside genuine contempt, but feels no less crappy. Now that I’m 25 and am consistently surrounded by probably more black people than I have ever been in my life, I feel like I’m desperate race to catch up, before…what? Before people truly realize how ‘not black’ I am? Before I have kids, and I fail to expose them to essential black culture out of woeful ignorance? Whatever it is, there is a definite sense of urgency, quickly followed by a sense of hopelessness. How sad is that?

Please don’t take this as some sort of indictment against my parents, who happily and freely shared their cultures with me, to the point where I identify with their legacy as truly mine. If I am frank, I still see black American culture as one that I have adopted – from a very early age, yes, but it still isn’t…biological. There are days when I feel my membership is stronger than others; when no one could look at me and tell that I didn’t belong. And there others that…well. Those are bad days.

This might all be in my head. Black culture is what it is because of the vast blend of African and Caribbean cultures that contribute to it; the true ‘melting pot’ that the white founders of this country loved to boast about. One black person is no more or less ‘black’ because they don’t subscribe to the exact brand of blackness that another has known from birth – using the same slang, singing the same songs, dancing the same way. Right?

Then why do I still sometimes feel like such a fraud?

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My Job Won’t Let Me Hate My Job

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I never wanted to teach secondary school.

While I dreamed of standing in front of classroom, molding young minds, shaping our future, grading papers and assigning homework, I never, not once, seriously entertained the thought of teaching middle or high school. Kindergarten, probably. Third grade, maybe – a little old for my comfort level. I imagined myself as motherly figure to very small children, ones who were still learning how to properly hold a pencil, who were stumped by addition problems with multiple digits, who were still firm believers in the Tooth Fairy and the monster under the bed. Babies, I told anyone who would listen. I want to teach babies. 

I do not teach babies.

I haven’t been in the best mood this week. Sometimes my bitterness descends like an angry, relentless cloud, and I’m forced to get up out of bed, onto the hot, crowded train, and into that damn building to paste on a smile and teach preteens and teenagers. It does not come easily for me. 

Sometimes I need to remind myself, ‘Be nice to the children. It’s not their fault you’re in a bad mood. Well, a lot of the time, it probably is. Be nice to them anyway.”

But then, in the midst of my lackluster affirmations and constant clock-checking (is it 2:49 yet? it is 3:41 yet? is it JUNE yet?) a kid will be awesome, or hilarious, or incredibly sweet, and it throws my entire cynical world for a loop.

Yesterday afternoon, five high schoolers attended the first meeting of the literary magazine club a coworker and I decided to create this year. I admittedly dragged myself in the meeting tired and battling a headache, which has become my normal state of being for the end of the day, but I forcibly made myself perk up for the sake of the kids. I’m glad I did. What followed was one of the most enjoyable times I’ve ever spent with students. The girls were creative, engaged, outspoken, and HILARIOUS. In all of my internal mumbling and grumbling, I had temporarily forgotten how great teenagers can be. They can make me laugh, make me think, make me forget about my headache.

No, they were not the age group I chose. But they’re the age group I’m with, and honestly, sometimes, I just cannot hate it the way I want to.

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I don’t know if you’ve heard DJ Khaled’s song, “No New Friends” (okay, Drake is the one who whines the chorus, but give credit where credit is due), but I have, and I take issue with it. (And let us assume, for a few minutes, that I am not a twenty-something year old rapper with millions of dollars in disposable income.)

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Dearest Drake,

What, exactly, is the problem with acquiring new friends? Does their addition to your date book and contacts list threaten your old friends? Are they too demanding on your limited resources of affection and time? Do they chew with their mouths open or bad-mouth your profession? Are their belief systems uncomfortably challenging to your own? What is it, Drake? What?

As a professional living in a big city in her mid-twenties, the prospect of new friends is not only permissible, it is incredibly appealing. I moved out of my small hometown about a year and a half ago, and while I have met some people I would now consider friends, there are many occasions where I find myself subtly seeking even more individuals with which to share my platonic affections. If you’re reading this and shaking your head in astonished disbelief, Drake, then just hold on. Allow me to explain.

I was pretty popular in high school, if you can even qualify as ‘popular’ in a graduating class of 63 people. I considered myself friends, or acquaintances, at the very least, with the majority of my class. I made a point of being strange and silly and making people laugh – at me, or with me; the majority of the time it didn’t matter. I avoided lifetime membership to any one clique, preferring to bounce from lunch table to lunch table, identity to identity. Can’t catch me, White Preppy Girls, because now I’m rapping obnoxiously loudly with the Unfriendly Black Hotties! But don’t you worry, Sarcastic Nerds, I’ve got my copy of Half Blood Prince and my highlighter; I’ll see you in our sixth period book club (read: study hall). I had the system down. That’s what’ll happen when you attend the same school with the same people for twelve years. You become a bit comfortable.

College, therefore, paralyzed me like a shot in the back, leaving me unable to function with my previous ease. It was the classic ‘small fish in a big pond’ situation. Here’s a tip: if you’ve been accustomed to very small, nurturing environment your entire life, you probably shouldn’t hurtle headfirst into a situation where you’re a nobody in a sea of other loud, vulgar, oftentimes smelly nobodies. In other words, do not –DO NOT – attend a state school. There were so many people around me, I didn’t know how to function normally. So I threw myself into social situations with the grace of drunk hippopotamus (the main difference being I was not, in fact, a hippopotamus). Once I realized that the hangovers and residual humiliation were probably not worth a few hours of ‘fun’, I began trying to make friends in other, less sloppy ways: I auditioned for a dance group, joined a gospel choir, and began attending Classics Club meetings.

All of my attempts failed, for one reason or another, and I gave up and retreated into a shell of misery, loneliness, and boredom until my study abroad year. Life in England was brand new and exciting, and I vowed to start afresh: alluring French man staying in my hostel invites me to a party of another stranger? Why not? People at said party find me interesting and converse with me in broken English? Beautiful! Get their numbers! Try to learn to speak their languages! See, Drake, I was able to make new friends, and I could even get international with it. Rutgers may have been the bottom, but I was definitely, finally here.

…Until May, when classes ended and my Visa expired and I had to go home.

I graduated with a profound attitude of ‘good riddance’ and, beneath that, a sadder, angrier attitude of ‘wow, how much happier would I be if I had spent the past four years at a school that I liked?’ Alas, time, as is its wont, goes on, and bitterness is something that one must cope with, day to day. I knew I would never get those years back, never regain the seemingly limitless amount of time to find people you connect with and love and want to keep in your life as you mature and continue to reach memorable milestones. Don’t get me wrong: I did meet such people in college. My regret was that I could count those people on one hand.

Am I greedy, Drake, for craving a larger and more varied community of friends? Maybe I am. Maybe I should focus on maintaining the friendships I already have, you say. Pop more champagne, throw around our imaginary hundred dollar bills, you know, #justgirlythings. This is good advice, but allow me to posit that while appreciating your friend circle is important, healthy, and more than worthy of praise, it is equally important to be inclusive of potential new friends. Don’t deny them from the outset; how do you know they won’t be an amazing contribution to your life, and vice versa? This playground snobbery is beneath you, Drake. You only live once; that’s the motto. Open up and let them in (unless, of course, they’re only after you for your money and fame, in which case, have them kicked out of the club for having the audacity to breathe your air. Swag.).

 

This post appeared on The Penny Ledger on October 2, 2013.

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Am I Informed Enough Yet?

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As a young, intelligent woman navigating her way through life in the Information Age, there are certain norms I try to establish for myself so as to stay current and relevant.

I probably miss the mark most often in checking the news.

Like many working individuals who are too lazy to get up earlier than is absolutely necessary, I don’t have time to watch the news and get my daily ten minute fill of local or national happenings. And like even more individuals living in a city, I don’t drive to work, and thus don’t listen to the radio.

Encouraged by my boyfriend, who is annoyingly omniscient about everything technology-related, I began subscribing to RSS feeds in order to follow my favorite blogs and reputable news sites.

For anyone who is not familiar, an RSS feed is a computer codey-thingy that you click and any new content will be sent directly to your reader. Hands down, finding new websites and blogs and clicking ‘Subscribe’ is the best part, because I usually spend about 1.34 minutes scrolling through the site, distracted by all the pretty colors, shapes, funky fonts, and witty headlines. I then think to myself, “Oh yeah. This is smart and fresh and engaging. I am going to LOVE reading their updates every day.”

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The downside is falling into this wormhole of subscribing, then a couple of hours later coming to the appalling realization that I’ve subscribed to exactly 73 Brooklyn blogs, 42 natural hair blogs, and 8 news sites and now I have to actually read it all.

Every day I fall behind, that’s another 350 articles. It quickly becomes overwhelming, but I can’t abandon it now, because then what would I do when I’m on a crowded bus and have no elbow space with which to read a book? I am certainly not going back to that dark place to re-download That-Which-Must-Not-Be-Played after finally deleting it a month ago, am I? The candy isn’t worth it, Carla. No, not even the striped ones. Focus.

If you’re horrified by the prospect of hundreds of RSS feeds demanding to be checked, then perhaps you should start on a smaller scale.

Allow me to introduce Tumblr. While you have probably visited the site from time to time, led there by a funny link shared by a friend on Facebook or via Twitter, the experience is completely different when you have a username and an active dashboard. Tumblr is a blogging platform in which you can follow as many other bloggers as you like, and the quality of the bloggers you follow dictates the quality of the pictures, articles, movie clips, and other media that you encounter on your dashboard. It’s incredibly fun and dangerously addictive.

One of the most provocative aspects of Tumblr is the social justice bloggers’ movement. This is exactly what it sounds like: Tumblr users who use their mini-platform, their microscopic soapbox within a sea of 0s and 1s, to loudly and vociferously protest against the myriad inequalities in society and, by extension, on the internet. It has become an accepted fact on Tumblr that for every humorous post that gently pokes fun at a certain demographic, there will be violent backlash from the group targeted, or another group that empathizes for who they perceive as the victim.

I follow my share of blogs that serve no real intellectual or edifying purpose: fandom-centered, humorous gif-centered, sarcastic text-post-centered, you name it; I’ve laughed at it and reblogged it. That said, I am still concerned with the development of my mind and soul; I strive to find bloggers who discuss things happening in our society from culturally and ethnically sensitive perspectives. I am thankful for the blogs that I do follow that are written by individuals who continually question and challenge traditionally-held views and who encourage me to do the same.

However, when this sensitivity begins to permeate every post I read, every image I see, it can often skew my initial reaction. I have found myself on multiple occasions wondering, “Should I be offended by this?” And that, I think, is when I know I am swiftly approaching the point of no return. Fortunately, I can still recognize the difference between justified outrage and contrived overreaction; informed humor and a misogynistic joke.

Most importantly, I can simply walk away from my computer when someone on the internet is wrong. I can’t understate the importance of this skill.

Will I ever be the social media maven I dream of becoming, up-to-the-minute on local concerts and the rapidly-changing situation in Syria? Probably not. But I can assure you that I will learn something new every day, even if it is just another question. (Seriously, what DOES the fox say?)

 

This post appeared on The Penny Ledger on September 18, 2013.

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